What do you do when you are in a relationship with somebody suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?
The prime and foremost rule is to GET OUT, don't look back and keep away. Do not contact, not for any reason. Their only interest is making themselves feel better by tormenting you.
Don't expect any closure or apologies, they are sociopaths and don't care one bit and if they do apologize it will be but crocodile tears. We all want closure, but it won't happen.
NPD is considered incurable, they won't get better tomorrow, next year or the next decade. They will only get worse as their misery compounds as they age. Don't attack them, remember any attention whether good or bad gives them a thrill. However silence does not amuse them.
Your NPD will soon move on to find another victim and will put on a great show of how much better the new victim is. Don't let this upset you, its only a show, remember how your NPD was mother Theresa in public and Cruela De Vil in private? It will be no different with their new victim.
Having children with an NPD will greatly complicate matters. Not only are they driving you crazy they will literally make your children insane or sick with illnesses such as bulimia, anorexia, fibromyalgia or other potentially debilitating or fatal conditions.
You may have to have contact with the NPD for custodial visits with your children. NPDs are such good liars that they will lie to police, lawyers and juries and be very believable. NPD is difficult to prove and the NPD likely will get custody and make you look like a schmuck in court. If you could get videos of the NPDs behavior, that could be helpful. But never underestimate their intelligence and wariness.
But I wish to make a break here, away from conventional thought that an NPD is a hopeless case.
For those of you that know how to do surrogate Inner Influencing work, I have developed a short protocol to move the NPD towards healing. This way the NPD does not have to consciously face the terrifying void. I have seen surrogate work affect NPDs before and this is experimental, if you wish to give it a try, drop me a private message.