Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is one of the most pervasive forms of abuse. There really isn’t much worse and this condition is increasingly spreading throughout our society.
The increasing use of illegal drugs, abuse and the general social breakdown occurring world wide is a major cause.
A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) will emotionally damage their families. This damage can last more than a life time, it will also affect the next 3 or 4 generations.
Many children of NPD elect to not perpetuate the craziness another generation by not having children. NPD can also be passed down through the generations. Great grandma had NPD and one of the great grand children also is afflicted with NPD.
NPDs are very good actors and actresses. They can feign love or whatever they need to get what they want. They tend to attract empaths or people that really want to help them. These make wonderful victims, especially the type that can keep turning the cheek.
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- No matter how hard you try, you can never keep a narcissist happy.
- They blame everybody except themselves for their problems.
- Everything you do, say or even think is wrong and bad.
- You feel powerless and useless to change the situation.
- They endlessly torment family members with accusations, silent treatments, or bring up events that happened years ago. They never forgive or forget.
- The narcissist appears to be a saint outside of the home, but within there can be no peace.
- The narcissist may not allow you to read, watch TV or enjoy hobbies, unless they choose your activity for you.
- They are highly controlling. You will never win in any situation.
- Conflicts are never resolved, they abjectly refuse to do so. They believe they are perfect.
- Reason with a narcissist is like a foreign language, it is futility.
- They use guilt and shame as a tool to control.
- They only focus on what is wrong. Constantly require you to prove your love for them.
- They blow your money and insist whatever they earn is their play money.
- Never ending chaos and dramas.
- They get offended over the most insignificant things, you must always be very careful of every word you say. It's just another excuse for weeks of more drama.
- They use threats to control you. Threats of divorce, calling inauthorities or suicide.
- They lie and gaslight almost continually. The religious NPDs are expert gaslighters.
- Often they also have delusional paranoia and what seems to be oppositional defiance disorder.
- They push your buttons to get you upset and then accuse you of being messed up.
Nobody believes you when you talk about the narcissistic abuse. The endless bragging, how everybody loves him/her or how great they are and being told you are lucky to have them because nobody else would have you.
A narcissist will leave you totally devastated with absolutely no self esteem or self worth and then laugh about it.
"There is only one way and that is my way."
Narcissists have no conscience nor remorse, they are sociopaths. They take sadistic pleasure in tormenting others, yet they can act innocently as if they don't know what they are doing.
Do not underestimate their intelligence, they will lie and cheat. They make a living at getting attention and if the attention is pleasant or not, it makes no difference to them. They need the attention in order to feel alive.
You will NEVER get a sincere apology or closure of any sort. They will simply move on to the next victim while your world is left in ruins and smoldering ashes.
Inside the mind of the narcissist
How to deal with a narcissistic abuser
